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Interview Prep
on October 14, 2020
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Career Resume Tips & Interview Prep

Interviewing with Confidence

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One of the most valuable skills I’ve picked up over the course of my career, thus far, is how to successfully prepare for job interviews.…

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I'm Viry, author and creator of Cafe con Viry. As a first gen Latina working in tech I'm passionate about creating community and sharing my experiences with others. I hope that my stories and learnings help you in your career journey and personal growth!

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πŸ’” Last week was incredibly challenging. The dea πŸ’” Last week was incredibly challenging. The death of Daunte Wright, the mistreatment of Army Lt. Caron Nazario, the video release of Adam Toledo's murder, the ongoing trial of Derek Chavin and the shooting in Indiana, which led to 8 deaths... where does one even begin?

πŸ’¬ I coincidentally talked to a coach last week, too, about the need to take care of ourselves. It came about because of some work challenges, but I found it very relatable in trying to process last week's events. We discussed how taxing it can be when something consumes us emotionally. She acknowledged that often regular rest is not enough to recharge the spirit from emotional draining.

πŸ€” She had me zero in on what truly was misaligned with my values so that I could identify what I wanted and understand how that was or wasn't in my sphere of control. And in truth she didn't give me a magical exercise or secret to "fixing" this but rather invited me to sit with the following question - How will you care for your spirit?

πŸ’• I wish I had some answers, but I'm feeling thankful in just identifying that my spirit needs care. So, I hope this week's affirmation can be a gentle reminder to care for yourself for the purpose of moving forward. That was another key part. We need to see healing of the spirit as a continuous journey, not just one stop. That's how we continue to stay engaged and driving towards action.
When is the last time you connected with your root When is the last time you connected with your roots? ⬇️

✈ Since 2017 I started taking a yearly solo trip to Mexico to connect with my extended family and culture. Throughout my life I have struggled with my Latina identity and I felt like experiencing Mexico IRL would be a way to reconnect to a part of me that felt lost. By building relationships with my extended family and visiting the places my parents called home I have come to understand and embrace my Mexican culture. 

πŸ’• In return I have been able to lead a more authentic and fulfilling life. Don't underestimate your roots and the power they have. When you no longer feel like you have to hide any part of yourself you're able to shine and stride forward.
Starting off my week with some serious energy!⁠ Starting off my week with some serious energy!⁠
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πŸ˜–Last week I invested in a BIG opportunity (nothing to share yet!) and the whole weekend I've had little thoughts questioning if it's the right choice. I keep shutting the thoughts down, but I can't help but feel an immense amount of imposter syndrome. ⁠
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🧑It doesn't help that I'm also doing some new things at work that have me feeling insecure in my skills and abilities. Overall, I've just neglected to give my confidence some love and care. And that's really where this affirmation comes in.⁠
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πŸ”₯ No, I'm not quite feeling like the fire just yet, but that's the goal! I'm filling a journal page with all the things that I think make me the fire. I'm thinking about the "spark" I bring into a project, meeting, or conversation. This page will then go up next to my desk as a reminder of why I shouldn't be scared. ⁠
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⬇️ Comment down below what your "spark" is and how you care for your confidence during challenging times :)
I'm thankful for the pockets of solitude I'm grant I'm thankful for the pockets of solitude I'm granted throughout my week.

😴 Yesterday was an incredibly exhausting day for me. I'm not sure if there was something in the air or if my new job tasks were more overwhelming than I expected. Whatever it was it gave me a massive headache and I ended my work day feeling burnt out.

πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ I really wasn't in a headspace to be around people and found it so peaceful to just be home alone for awhile. There was a part of me that felt pressured to get back online and work again. However, I acknowledged that what I truly needed was rest!

πŸ’€ Over the last few years in corporate I have struggled to accept and address my body's need for rest. I aways say, "just one more email," and then get sucked in to hours and hours of more work. This WFH time has made it a little harder to honor my rest time. But, I'm starting to find different ways to recharge and just give my mind a break - like doing some solo stretches or sitting in my backyard with no phone.

⬇️ How do you recharge or rest?
This new post has me a tad nervous, but I hope you This new post has me a tad nervous, but I hope you'll head to my bio and check it out πŸ˜„β 
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❀ I talk about a very personal part of my story and how it influences the way I approach my 9-5 job. It's important to reflect on how different parts of our identity impact our perspective and approach to situations.⁠
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⬇️ Comment down below your thoughts or leave a comment on the post itself! ⁠
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Note that I do talk about sexual assault in my post, so feel free to skip out on this one πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™
Living life for myself was one of the last topics Living life for myself was one of the last topics I covered in therapy.

πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦ As the oldest daughter in a Mexican family there was so much I did (and sometimes still do) to make my parents happy. I saw their sacrifice and struggle to make sure I had a better life and I wanted to make them proud. It wasn't until I started working in corporate that I realized that my parents' expectations didn't align with what I wanted for myself.

πŸ˜‰ It wasn't anything major...well maybe my whole perspective on kids, but that's for another post. Mainly, it was small things, for example, how I dressed. Since I worked in corporate my parents always wanted to see me in skirts, heels, a dress shirt and full makeup. I enjoy a good heel moment, but everyday?! 

πŸ’¬ The dress thing might seem silly, but it was one of the many ways I started opening up in therapy on figuring out who I am at my core. I started asking myself, "Is that what you want or is it what your parents expect?" Now, I'm no stranger to defying my extended family's expectations, but my parents... I didn't want to let them down.

πŸ’™ I even brought this into my coaching conversations and my coach reminded me that at the end of the day my parents would always love me. She made me realize that pride and love didn't have to go hand in hand and that what truly mattered to me was my parent's love.

⬇️ How will honor your heart this week over the expectations of others?
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